I was burning, while you came blaming me for the smell of ashes.
Attributed to Fyodor Dostoevsky
Not found in their works No source has been found in Fyodor Dostoevsky's works.Draft entry, not yet reviewed
Where it really comes from
No such sentence occurs in the 19 works in the source texts (Poor Folk, White Nights, The House of the Dead, Notes from Underground, Crime and Punishment, The Gambler, The Idiot, Demons, The Brothers Karamazov, Bobok, The Dream of a Ridiculous Man; and in Russian also Humiliated and Insulted, Winter Notes, The Eternal Husband, The Adolescent, The Meek One, the Writer's Diary, the Pushkin speech and the letters). The English texts were searched for 'smell of ashes', 'burning' and 'blaming me'; the Russian for горел, пепел, запах гари, пахнет гарью, запах пепла and упрекать, alone and together. 'Ashes' occurs only literally or as a stock image, for instance Petrov's passions 'smouldering, like burning coals beneath ashes' in The House of the Dead; The Gambler, the title story of the volume it is credited to, contains nothing like it. The earliest dated trace found is the Goodreads entry, whose oldest visible like is of 29 July 2025; who added it, and from where, is not shown. Searches for a Russian, Italian, Turkish or Arabic original found none, so neither the date nor the real author could be established. The closest genuine scene is in The Idiot, Part 3, chapter 6, where the dying Ippolit confesses: 'I was continually proving to him that he was to blame for his own poverty', until, at the corpse of Surikov's frozen baby, 'I began to explain to Surikov again that it was ‘his own fault,’' and the meek man showed him the door: 'Go, sir!' There the blaming onlooker is the one the book condemns.
Where it circulates
Circulates online as a one-line Dostoevsky quote, without a work, in posts about being blamed by someone who did not see one's pain. Goodreads lists it under his name with the book field set to an Italian edition, Il giocatore e altri racconti (The Gambler and other stories), and no story or page.
What it says
I was in agony, and instead of noticing the fire you reproached me for what it left behind: for the bitterness, the coldness or the damage that my suffering caused.
Use with care
Not found in Dostoevsky. If you want a genuine line on blaming the one who suffers, use Ippolit's confession about Surikov in The Idiot, Part 3, chapter 6, which the novel condemns.
Forms in circulation
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I was burning, while you came blaming me for the smell of ashes
The Goodreads entry, credited to the Italian collection Il giocatore e altri racconti.seen
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Checked against
- goodreads.com/quotes/12492488-i-was-burning-while-you-came-blaming-me-for-the (credited to Il giocatore e altri racconti; no story or page; oldest visible like 29 July 2025)
- en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Fyodor_Dostoyevsky (not among sourced, disputed or misattributed quotes)
- ru.wikiquote.org/wiki/Фёдор_Михайлович_Достоевский (not listed)
- quoteinvestigator.com/?s=Dostoevsky (no article on it)
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