To love at all is to be vulnerable.

In the chapter on Charity, Lewis considers the risk involved in loving mortal things. His alternative is deliberately bleak: a heart sheltered from every attachment avoids injury only by becoming incapable of love. The published excerpt develops this through the image of a heart sealed away with its owner’s private comforts.

Every real attachment exposes a person to loss or hurt; eliminating that exposure would mean refusing love itself.

This is not a promise that vulnerability guarantees a happy relationship, nor an instruction to accept mistreatment. Its contrast is between the risks of attachment and an entirely self-protective refusal to love.

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• cslewis.com/to-love-is-to-be-vulnerable
• en.wikiquote.org/wiki/C._S._Lewis#The_Four_Loves_(1960)

C. S. Lewis, The Four Loves (1960), Chapter VI, ‘Charity’. Checked at Quotogeny, https://quotogeny.com/q/to-love-at-all-is-to-be-vulnerable/ (22 October 2026).

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